Ok what I mean is what would u do if your spouse feels that work is enough and on their off day which is 3x a week do not take any responsibility to spend atleast 30min let alone 10min to spend time with their toddler son/or daughter (in this case its only one child)so you can have a break atleast to eat or breath (I’m only asking for 10min!). But instead they go to the room and close the door and stay in front of the computer for 3-4 hours,or talk on the phone, or stay in the bathroom for 1hr with the laptop (I kno wierd) and only come out when its time to eat lunch or dinner. Also you and your family keep trying to convey the message to your spouse repeatedly but polietly that they should spend more time with their kid, but they pull the same old phrase “O I work and bring money to the house I shouldn’t have to work at home also”…I myself is a bit confused in what to do?
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8 Comments Received
June 7th, 2010 @4:37 am
Find a new spouse! That’s a bunch of crap. Who wouldn’t want to spend time with there kid unless he was a total jerk face.
Good luck sista!
June 8th, 2010 @6:31 pm
sounds like a roommate more than a spouse. he needs to take a parenting class and learn how to interact with his kids. Some men just don’t know how to do that when their kids are young but do become more involved as the child ages and starts school.
June 11th, 2010 @3:57 am
so why did you have a kid in the first place. he works and brings home the money to pay bills, so you can stay home. women like you shouldnt be having kids.
June 13th, 2010 @8:30 pm
I would be furious if my fiancee came home and completely ignored me and our daughter! It took two people to make the baby, and it’s going to take two people to take responsibility for her/him. He may have been working all day, and so have we! Being a mother is a tough job, and some men don’t realize it. Talk to him about it again. Tell him that you don’t feel like he’s spending enough time with you and the kids. If he once again, refuses to do it.. that just shows immaturity. A good father looks forward to coming home and spending time with his spouse and children! Children don’t deserve a father who comes home and completely ignores them.
If you HAVE to talk your spouse into spending time with you and the kids.. I’m sorry to say but – he can’t be worth it.
June 16th, 2010 @3:46 pm
Get counseling while you guys have time. You two need to talk more. Before I got married, those are all things I used to do and thought …I carried that kind of mindset into marriage and family but I was totally wrong. These days, all I do is not just work, but my mindset is, I work for my wife and my kids. It’s all about family. Being the man of the house you can say. Maybe involve someone close to him or her to get them to think about what they’re doing is wrong. Marriage/family works as a single unit.
June 18th, 2010 @3:13 am
What can you do? Nothing
What you end up doing? Resenting and hating and move on…
June 19th, 2010 @11:05 pm
He calls spending time with his children , “work”.
Hmm…I wondered if that was the way it was in his family while growing up. There are plenty of men who work full-time yet spent time each evening and on the weekends with their children.
Other then asking him to spend more time with the children, have you had a discussion with him about your feelings and the children’s about his lack of involvement.
If he refuses to talk about it, then I would suggest that you get some counseling.
Are you willing to live like that until the kids grow up without the influence of their father showing them he cares enough to be in their lives?
June 22nd, 2010 @7:18 pm
Are we married to the same man?? LOL my husband is the same way. I have talked to him about it repeatedly and it does no good because he thinks is not doing anything wrong. i just ignore him and take care of my kids and know that one day I will leave his sorry butt. Good luck
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